I realize the Christian Right is having a tizzy over same-sex marriage. But then I really don’t care. All my life I’ve watched heterosexuals fall in love and get married and then fall out of love and into divorce, and believe me; I’m not impressed. So if someone who thinks they know God can come along and tell me that we gays can’t do that – fall in love and get married, I’m not listening.
Now I’m not saying gay people will do any better than heterosexuals at marriage but one thing I do know; gay people won’t be getting married because one of them got pregnant. Surely there might be some exceptions to the rule; we gays are a mixed bunch. Read more
Intersex is a group of conditions where there is a discrepancy between the external genitals and the internal genitals (the testes and ovaries).
Throughout my life time, I have had the pleasure and the experience to meet two intersex people. There are very few in society so they don’t get much notice. Intersex people also usually are identified as either a man or a woman, depending on their dominant sex. Read more
Though many of my gay brothers and sisters might disagree, Tyler Clementi’s roommate Dharun Ravi didn’t deserve ten years in prison for what he did. The judge in the trial, Superior Court Judge Glenn Berman sentenced Ravi to thirty days in jail, a ten thousand dollar fine and three years’ probation. Judge Berman also didn’t recommend deportation for Ravi either.
The judge stated: Read more
Those who read my articles know very well that I’m gay; I never hide it. Thing is, I’ve never have come right out and told my boss. I just decided she must know already because I’m so open when I write, surely I thought, she’s read some of my material some time or the other.
I also never told her because many years ago I lost a job because I told one of my superiors at that job that I was gay and it wasn’t much more than a week later that I was fired, blaming it on something else. After that incident which hurt me a great deal, I had a difficult time telling anyone I worked with that I was gay. Read more
I only have time for a quick post today, so let us take note of the happy fact that Obama has now come out squarely in support of gay marriage. In an interview today he said: Read more
Pastor Sean Harris of Berean Baptist Church in Fayetteville, N.C. is no kind of shepherd at all. A pastor to me has always been someone to turn to for spiritual guidance; someone who has the ear of God and speaks for God. For a pastor to tell his congregation that if their young boys show any signs of effeminacy, they should just “punch” them. If I had been in that congregation at the time, I would have gotten up and headed out the door, but probably not before I turned on the man and told him what I thought about him as a supposedly man of God, right in front of his congregation. I’m also certain I would need to speak quickly before the ushers got to me to force me out the door. Read more
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As a gay man, I’ve faced harassment many times in my life. I’ve also been beaten into a pulp because I happened to be stepping out of a gay bar with some friends one night. I know the kind of hate that exists toward gay people and it’s something that I hope we’ll overcome as a society over time. I do believe that a lot more people are enlightened than they were back in the 70s when I first came out of the closet and first started going to gay bars. Read more
I’m sure that the women who belong to the “One Million Moms” group feel in their hearts that they’re doing the right thing; standing up against JC Penny and now Toys ‘R’ Us because of these businesses’ support of gay issues, but there’s something they just don’t seem to understand. What they don’t understand is that being gay is not just an adult thing but it’s also a kid thing, at least as young as eleven – that was the first time I remember realizing that I was gay and I’m sure it’s the same for a lot of kids. Read more
There are probably several reasons why gay people want to get married – love, stability, normalcy and maybe a little envy. I do know that when you’re gay and grow up watching heterosexual people fall in love and get married, it makes you want to have that same thing in your life.
The desire to have stability in one’s life is probably the most practical reason why gay and lesbians wish to walk down the aisle but it probably isn’t a good reason by itself. Love helps. When two people love each other, they should have the option to spend their lives with each other and not in just a living arrangement; that kind of relationship comes with no real commitment besides each other’s promises. Read more
As much crap as Oklahomans get for being backwards hicks, Oklahoma is a state of many faces. Slowly but surely, the faces of the politicians are starting to represent the diversity of Oklahoma (not just middle-upper-class 'straight' Evangelical white male Oklahomans).
To counter the insane, homophobic rhetoric of Sally Kern, we have an openly, happily transgender Brittany Novotny giving the witch a run for her money. Read more
During the 70s, I came out of the closet and began the typical trek to gay bars and the promiscuous sexual conduct that came with it. This was what gay people did back then; they went to bars and had lots of sex with multiple partners. It was before AIDS in the 80s and it was all about fun. Lovers; at least among gay men, didn’t last. I must have had a dozen lovers in the first couple of years of my coming out. I’d be committed to someone until either I or them got to feeling like we were missing out on something. Read more
9/20/11 As of today, gay Americans can openly serve their country in the Armed Forces. Read more
On Good Friday – and what an appropriate day for it, to be sure - Houston’s Mayor Annise Parker issued an executive order expanding the city's anti-discrimination policy. The policy already protected people based on race, religion, gender and sexual preference – but not gender expression. Read more
15 years ago Today, President Clinton put forward the concept of "Don't Ask, Don't Tell", which was held as progress politics. The act prohibits any homosexual or bisexual person from disclosing his or her sexual orientation or from speaking about any homosexual relationships, including marriages or other familial attributes, while serving in the United States armed forces. The "don't ask" part of the policy indicates that superiors should not initiate investigation of a service member's orientation in the absence of disallowed behaviors, though mere suspicion of homosexual behavior can cause an investigation.
While the second part of the law seemed to protect homosexual or bisexual persons from a witch hunt it left the door open if a person “exhibit behavior” or people were suspicions of a person who they thought was a homosexual. How did this law pass in the first place? What kind of behavior would qualify as GAY?? I don’t think anyone asked the hard questions 15 years ago.
I’m so glad this law will hopefully be over turned by President Obama!!!!!! Read more